So you may think a couple would never be in an FFM threesome, but there are many reasons why it happens. First off, sex happens and more interesting! Maybe you’re at a party and a few of you get high or have a few drinks, next thing you know you’re playing strip poker or naked Twister.

Maybe you want to fulfill your girlfriend’s fantasy of being with two men. Another possible MMF scenario could be that you were contacted by a poly couple who wants a third for playtime, and the wife is incredibly hot so how could you say no.

No matter what leads to finding yourself in a threesome with another man and woman, there’s a good chance you have some initial anxiety or misgivings.

5 Tips for Your First MMF Threesome

1. Watch MMF porn. Any kind of porn can work as inspiration. Threesome videos will give you a whole range of ideas, techniques, positions and possibilities. But this comes with a warning: don’t act porny in bed… women do not like it!

2. State your boundaries beforehand. This may be through a message on a threesome dating site, over coffee, or during a meal before your threesome. Share your hard limits, what you might be willing to try, and what you would like to try. This will save you all some awkward threesome moments.

3. Be open. Don’t be surprised if you yourself cross one of your boundaries. A lot of unexpected things can happen in the heat of passion. You may have thought there was no way you would let another man suck your cock, but watching him to down on the woman might make you want to give it a whirl.

4. Watch or be watched. Threesomes aren’t all hands on, so if getting too close to another man in a sexual way is off-putting or super uncomfortable, try watching from the sidelines. Or be the star and let the other man wank in the corner.

5. Be in the moment. Any threesome is a heady experience, so do your best to be present and enjoy every moment. After all, you just don’t know when it will happen again. Also make mental notes of what turns you on the most and what isn’t quite doing it for you… for the next time!